I don't think we ever have friends like we do when we're kids. The other day, a holiday here in the frigid north, I wrote a list of all of my friends where I was a kid, or at least the ones I remember. Here's some reflections:
1.
Misa Piercey. Misa and I were friends back when we were in grade 6. We used to laugh a lot. She, however has some neurological problems and as I grew older and more sophisticated the gap widened. The last I heard about her she was at Sheridan studying mechanics which is odd inasmuch as she's a woman and she's about 5'1. I remember her number so I think I'll give her a call sometime.
2.
Chris McConnell. Admittedly I didn't like this friend very much. He was always my "plan B" so to speak. He was totally obsessed with Power Rangers to the extent that he still watched the show and collected the figurines when he was in grade 11. We had very little in common, although we were in the Sea Cadets together and he was a favourite of my dad. The last time I saw him was in a convenience store not far from his house. We made eye contact and I think we both knew that neither of us wanted a little insincere little reunion in the middle of 7-11. A few years ago I think his dad died and his mom moved back to Newfoundland. I have no idea what he's doing.
3.
Chris Gainy. Of all the friends I've ever had he was by far the coolest. He introduced me to "Kris Kross" and "Beastie Boys." Though we were friends for only a year I think that he helped me to become much more confident. Last I heard he got someone pregnant and drives a forklift. Good thing the coolness didn't rub off on me.
4.
Jason Foote. This guy was probably my best friend. He was cool, but not really in the in crowd like Chris was. He and I got kicked out of pretty much every store in out neighbourhood for causing some kind of raucous mayhem. Once he snuck a bottle of some disgusting alcohol from his mother's stash and we sat in my backyard drinking it pretending to enjoy it until he vomited. We spent time together doing nothing specific. He'd pretend to be interested in Star Trek and watch it with me and I'd pretend to be interested in WWF just so we could hang out. We were friends from grade 4 until grade 9 when we went to different high schools. He fell into a gang (a real gang) and I became the Mayor of Nerdsville. I heard from a friend that he's into drugs big-time. I'd contact him but I have a feeling that I'd become somewhat disappointed.
5.
Mike Durham. This guy was quite odd. There are no real words to describe how strange this guy was. At first it was funny and then it was scary. Needless to say I stopped hanging around him. He's living in Hamilton and involved with some type of heavy metal band. I have no interest in hearing from him again.
6.
John Stone. John and I did a lot of mischievous things together like hiding in a deep freezer full of pies at school or incessantly making fun of our teacher's South African accent. I still have limited contact with John. He's living on the street somewhere in the Annex area of Toronto and does very heavy drugs. Sometimes I meet him and take him out for some food. This is tragic because I think that this guy is smart enough to do anything.
7.
Chris Manton. Out of all my friends, this one was the "bad boy." (We all were pretty bad, but him especially) I once asked this guy to throw a cinder block through the windshield of a parked car and he did it with no hesitation. I seriously think that he suffered from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. He's doing drugs someplace I'm sure.
8.
Chris Sheardown. I was good friends with this guy for a while. I went to his house pretty much every day after school. His mother was really odd though. I ran into her a few months ago and she stopped me in the mall. I asked her how Chris was doing and she said "Ah, he's no good anymore." I didn't ask anymore questions.
I'm amazed sometimes that I didn't end up in the same situation as many of these people. I attribute this to the following factors:
1. I was afraid of my father. Unlike some parents, I knew that if a came home with cigarette
smoke on my breath for example, that there'd be a heafty fee to pay at home. So heafy that I knew that I couldn't afford it. It was all economics. The price of running wild was too expensive.
2. Every summer of my childhood I was gone to camp. I was never around. Within a week of school letting up I was gone for 7 weeks and wouldn't return until one week before school began. All kids know that summer is prime-time for trouble but the difference was that I was making trouble in Muskoka and was being supervised by 17 year-olds.
3. I went to a different high school. All the kids in the neighbourhood go to the local high school called Meadowvale. I went to Graydon, where the gifted kids go.
4. I was in private school for grades 5 to 8. When your dad pays $12,000 a year to send you to school he makes sure you're a highly motivated learner.
5. My family was better-off economically than most of my friends. More money sometimes means less trouble for the kids demographically speaking. I don't know why this is but I think it's true.
6. I was preserved by God. 'Nuff said.